“Familiarity breeds contempt.”
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
As I said in Part 1 that’s it in a nutshell.
Why Romantic Friendships make the most sense.
But there is also another way to illustrate why they solve the romantic love puzzle. All you have to do is take a look at a key reason why dating and relationships seldom work.
You girls are always complaining right?
About the emotionally unavailable guys you’re experiencing?
Yet you are attracted to them again and again.
Because they embody all that exciting Bad Boy energy!
Shift into a relationship where you have finally found your “knight in shining armor.” Instead of being happy with the Nice Guy you’ve snagged what do you say?
“He doesn’t do anything interesting.”
“Sure he’s nice and dependable.”
“But nothing ever changes.”
“I feel like I’m dead!”
So what do you do when this is your partner’s patterns? You gripe and complain and bitch and create all sorts of drama for him.
The reason dating and relationships are hard?
Why you girls feel they never work out for you?
You are emotional creatures seeking constant change.
When you don’t get it you create drama so you do.
Even though often you’re not consciously aware of this.
A major reason Romantic Friendships work is they allow a Nice Guy to simulate the positives of that Bad Boy energy. They also allow him to provide you with the love that Bad Boy is short on delivering too.
How do Romantic Friendships do this?
By not letting you get too much of him.
Since you don’t live with your partner and you’re not his “only one?”
You continue to appreciate and desire him.
But when you’re with him unlike the Bad Boy your Nice Guy romantic friend truly loves you. Instead of being emotionally unavailable when he’s with you he is totally focused on you.
But then before you start getting bored?
He’s gone and you are allowed to miss him.
This dynamic of absence and presence?
It keeps you in love with him and excited too.
What do you think? Are Romantic Friendships such a terrible thing because you don’t own your lover or are they actually the wisest way to keep your love alive?
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