Okay so I know what you’re thinking.

Doesn’t this guy help guys overcome porn addiction?

If that’s the case what am I doing here?

Telling you guys using porn can make you a better lover?

As incongruous as this sounds?

It really isn’t.

The reason this seems like a contradiction is you don’t understand what porn addiction actually IS. Someone who uses porn may be addicted but that’s not necessarily the case.

Porn addiction is compulsiveness in your relationship to pornography.

You have a lack of sexual self-control.

You find yourself indulging when you wish you wouldn’t.

It’s the same kind of obsessiveness a glutton has.

He just can’t seem to quit over-eating.

The answer isn’t to stop eating at all.

It’s to get a handle on WHEN and WHY you do.

Overcoming porn addiction is a subject for another day and I’ve written a whole book on the subject especially for Christians.

What I’m talking about here though?

It’s about using porn consumption as a tool.

The purpose is to develop self-control by using it.

Not control over addiction but control over premature ejaculation.

This is a problem a lot of you guys have.

You can’t seem to hold it together until your partner is through.

When I say “through” here of course I’m talking about the conventional Western way of “making love.” Pursuing orgasms is not the only way you can connect with your partner, nor is it necessarily the best.

But assuming you’re not quite the Tantra type?

Learning to extend your love making can be quite a bonus.

Since girls take time to warm up to sex?

It obviously can be very helpful for her if you don’t lose it in record time.

But how do you prevent yourself from doing that?

I know.

You’re Lightening Joe and you can’t even imagine it!

You’re so used to getting excited by sex?

You lose it in no time flat.

What you need to do is practice sex without the presence of your partner. By masturbating to porn by yourself you can begin to develop self-control.

Becoming familiar with your ejaculatory pattern?

You can learn to identify when you are approaching the point of emission.

You can actually train yourself.

You can develop the ability to move away from the point of no return.

The only reason you aren’t aware of this?

You rush there right now like there is no tomorrow.

Gotta get this orgasm in right now!

Before somebody shuts the program down!

Masturbating to pornography allows you to simulate the excitement of intercourse and grow familiar with your patterns. By taking your time and stimulating yourself you can slowly develop the ability to LAST.

Can you do this without using pornography?

You can.

But it’s not nearly as effective.

The visual stimulation of actual girls is more realistic.

What you want is to really get turned on.

Porn adds that element of real excitement.

It gets you really stimulated.

You want to combine the mental AND physical stimulation if you can.

So you can learn how to approach and withdraw.

Eventually as you do all this you will become more and more aware of yourself. Then when you are actually making love with your partner? You will habitually control yourself there too because you’ve learned how.

Yes I know this may seem like TMI.

But who else out there is talking about this?

Making love is what I’m about.

I want you to be able to be about it too!

And you know what?

Even if your partner is uptight about your use of pornography?

She’s going to thank you for doing this anyway.

And eventually what she’ll keep asking you?

“Hey! Have you been making sure you’re masturbating to porn lately?”

What do you think guys? Isn’t it time to turn your porn use into a way to become a better lover?