Have you noticed I don’t really give you a lot of techniques?
Or tips and todos?
You rarely find me saying, “If you want to be in love work on your communication.”
Or, “It’s important that you spend time doing things together.”
“Here are 5 quick ways to improve your love making.”
None of that.
It’s not because I don’t think such things are valuable in their own place. Sometimes you are such a complete misfit about love that you really have to start with the basics.
But the most important thing I’ve learned?
Love isn’t really about doing.
It is something you are.
Being.
This is what love’s about.
It is about letting love flow from you by embracing what you value.
It is only when you don’t value your lover you get into trouble.
What I do spend a lot of time talking about instead is what you shouldn’t do. I focus more on the things you’re busy doing because you think you need them to be in love.
Things like being “out for sex.”
Focusing on attraction.
Making lists of all the qualities you think you need in a lover.
Trying to find somebody to have kids with.
Someone who is your soulmate or with whom you can personally grow.
Seeking out commitment.
Someone who will be exclusive with you.
Move in together and start a home.
If nothing else you can’t accuse me of being someone who is trying to make money off you. I’m definitely not spending my time trying to sell you what you WANT!
The biggest problem with my advice?
It’s about what you actually NEED.
But you don’t want to hear about that!
You want someone to tell you how to find your “one and only.”
Make sure they are someone who will “never leave.”
Someone who will be “loyal only to you.”
But there is a method to my madness if you are willing to take the medicine. What I’m always doing is trying to show you how to make room in your life for love.
Because love is the most important thing.
It’s the only thing worth focusing on.
The one thing you’re busy ignoring.
Because you think you need everything else.
And so you go week after week.
Month after month.
Year after year.
Without love in your life.
Because you’d rather have everything else than have the real deal.
The real reason I don’t give advice about techniques and methods to make love thrive in your life? It is because love is actually the easy part.
Love just wants you to BE.
Be with your partner.
Appreciate him or her.
Start being content.
Quit looking for the thrill.
Stop thinking love should excite you.
Love is what you get when YOU finally get out of the way.
Remove all the clutter.
And take in what actually IS.
When you met your partner nobody had to tell you how to be in love with them. You just were. You just spent time with them and did what you did.
That’s ALL.
Just be.
Nothing more.
Quit all your busy doing.
Remove all the things you think you need.
And receive what IS instead.
This is my advice to you.
My technique if you want to call it that.
This is what you need to do.
Absolutely NOTHING.
Nothing at all.
What do you think? Are you ready to take a walk on the wild side of love and just let it flow in your life instead of striving for it all the time?
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