Have you noticed it yet?

It shows up in everything you “like” on Facebook.

Everything you “pin” on Pinterest.

Everything you “retweet” on Twitter.

Everything that has you adding your approval.

The common thread flowing through all your social media activities is this: You already agree with what you are “liking.”

Am I right?

Obviously you’re not going to “like” something you don’t like.

Why would you “pin” for all the world to see, something you disagree with?

You’re not going to pass on to your followers something you think they should ignore.

So you already agree with all this stuff. Which means it really isn’t getting you anywhere.

It isn’t adding a thing to your life.

And if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve got.

Is that what you want?

The only people who are getting somewhere from this pattern are the marketers.

You’ve shown them what you like so they know just what to sell you.

Through the ads.

Remember those?

You didn’t really think the nice people at Facebook created this big, free playground just so you can play now did you?

I don’t resent them.

They’re just being good business people.

They’ve figured out a way to get you as their target market to clearly identify yourself.

Then all they have to do is call out to youwith the appropriate marketing message, and rake in the rewards.

It’s pretty smart actually.

So what does all this have to do with your love life?

Why am I writing about this here on a relationship blog?

You approach figuring out your relationship life in much the same way. You always read the people you already agree with.

The people who keep telling you what you already believe.

What you already want to hear.

You “like” it when somebody tells you monogamy works.

That there is one special person out there for you, your soulmate, and you just need go out and find them.

That romantic love will thrive when you move in together and start having babies.

That you’re going to live happily ever after.

You “like” when they tell you all this.

But I don’t do that do I?

I tell you things you don’t want to hear.

Like how 80-83% of all long term monogamous relationships end up unhappy.

That you are better off not to live with your partner at all, if you want love to last.

That the insecurities that drive you to make jealousy the foundation of your relationship, are wrongheaded.

So I know I’ll never be the star of your Facebook feed!

And I’m okay with that.

I’m just a messenger.

I’m not here to be popular.

But you really have a choice. You can keep listening to everybody tell you what you want to hear. Or you can choose instead to listen to the facts.

See the evidences right before your eyes.

As you know I believe in romantic love.

Believe it’s the most important thing you can pursue in your life.

I’m not trying to rain on your parade.

I’m just trying to get you to let reason guide your love life, instead of the other way around.

Because if you follow what I’m telling you, you’ll find your love life easier and simpler.

You’ll find it more rewarding and fulfilling.

And isn’t that what you really want it to be?

What do you think? Is it time to quit listening to everybody tell you what you already think?