I wrote Part 1 in 2018.
But since I’ve been polyamorous?
What to do with Valentine’s Day?
It’s been a bit of a mixed bag.
As I told you in my first installment I just treat this like any other day. If my love for my partners isn’t good on every other day this one is not going to change things.
Because I do Romantic Friendships?
Valentine’s Day is a bit of an anomoly.
Since I’m not playing by the usual relationship script?
Who am I supposed to see?
Because of my chosen lovestyle I’ve made a choice to just spend this day solo. This avoids any unnecessary confusion with the romantic friends in my life.
When I shared this with a female friend of mine?
Someone with whom I am not romantic?
She agreed that given my relationship style?
This actually makes a lot of sense.
But a couple years ago during a time I only had one romantic friend I made the “mistake” of not seeing her on Valentine’s Day and it didn’t go over so well.
I only say “mistake” because it caused her a little confusion.
Since there was nobody else in my life?
Nobody but her?
Why would I STILL stay away?
After that little incident I agreed that it probably was a bit unnecessary. I didn’t mean anything hurtful of course I was just aiming for consistency.
What can I say?
Mr INTJ can still make misjudgments!
But if you have more than one romantic friend?
I do recommend this plan for you.
If you are enjoying your romantic friendships like you ought to be you are seeing each of your partners regularly. There is no reason for any of you to follow the lead of society.
It’s a part of the Disney fantasy perspective.
Romantic Friendships leave that behind.
They bring your love life back to reality.
What do you think? Is Valentine’s Day really the important day everybody thinks it is or should every day with your partner be as important as the next one?
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