I know what you’re thinking.
Here he goes again with that logic thing.
Not only do I think logic won’t ruin your love life?
I think romantic love inherently makes SENSE.
The fact you don’t believe this is what’s causing you all your problems. The reason your love life is such a mess, is you think it is about your heart instead of your head.
“Wait a minute Kel.”
“Don’t you always say romantic love is about feeling?”
Yes I do.
But only once you’ve satisfied your mind first.
Let me illustrate what I mean by sharing an encounter with a client. She came to me because she couldn’t figure out what to do about the “love of her life.”
She met this guy and everything was right.
They both totally connected.
Only one challenge though?
He is in a relationship with someone else.
Even though she says they are both connecting, this guy isn’t willing to leave his partner. He even left his partner once, but then turned around and took her back.
Yes I know.
Obviously complexities to this guy’s relationship.
But that’s not the point here.
The point is why is my client holding on?
To you and I outside this situation her solution is totally obvious. She’s holding out hope with a guy who clearly isn’t ready to be with her.
That’s what logic says.
But it contradicts her feelings.
Because she thinks those feelings are love?
She’s letting him string her out indefinitely.
I asked her if she wanted me to give her my honest opinion. She said I could, so I told her she is just clinging to a hopeless dream.
Even if he leaves that girl?
What does all this say about him already?
What he’s doing is already weird.
It makes no sense to want to be with someone like that.
This is what I mean when I say that real romantic love is intelligent. You start with your head, and you figure out if the “love” you think you’re in actually makes sense.
When it does is when you proceed.
Because you know you’re safe to enjoy it.
Until the love you desire is like that?
You’re just infatuated and you should pass on it.
What do you think? Should your head follow your heart and submit to how you’re feeling, or is the way to true love one that inherently follows the path of intelligence?
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