Everywhere you turn this time of year you hear people telling you to change.
Create your 2017 New Year’s resolutions.
Set the goals you want to accomplish.
Decide what your vision truly is or the lifestyle you really want to achieve and then believe this is the year you’ll accomplish it.
Go out and get it!
In other words…change.
And of course this same reason applies to your love life.
Not in a relationship? Go out and find someone!
Your relationship not as good as you wish it were? Work on your personal development and growth.
Or go see a relationship counselor and get some help!
Change. Change. Change.
I say enough!
Don’t change a thing.
Don’t listen to everybody who is trying to convince you what you already have isn’t good enough.
Don’t listen to that inner voice telling you you’re inadequate or that your partner is dropping the ball.
Quit buying into the idea that unless you are constantly trying to improve and grow and progress, your love life just isn’t good enough.
Instead of all that, try doing nothing different at all.
Just keep doing what you’re doing.
Appreciate what you’ve got in your partner.
Appreciate who you are in yourself.
Sit back and relax and take in the life you actually have.
Your love life as it is.
Not as you think it “should” be.
By constantly being dissatisfied with what you’ve got, you miss out on it entirely. Because the present moment is all you ever have.
And it is beautiful.
It is exactly what it needs to be.
It is full of riches you are completely missing because you’re too busy chasing ideals that are only in your head.
Ideals are exactly that…ideals.
They aren’t reality and they never will be.
Reality is not ideal. It’s real. It has all the bumps and bruises everybody keeps telling you are a problem.
But they aren’t problems.
They are blessings.
Every bump and bruise is a chance for you to respond with love, either to yourself or to your partner.
Every imperfection is what makes you or your partner who you are.
And it is beautiful.
Don’t misunderstand me.
I’m not saying nothing will change this year.
It is inevitable.
What I’m saying is you don’t need to make it happen.
When you try to make change happen, you get in the way of the change that’s wanting to happen.
So what do you do instead?
If you aren’t going to spend your time trying to change things, what should you do?
And let your partner be himself or herself too.
Begin appreciating each other for who you are again, not for who you wish each other would be.
When you relax into what is, and begin to enjoy it for its living richness, what you’ll find is that change for the better will begin to find its way into your life.
As you follow it.
As it unfolds.
As it flows.
Think I’m crazy?
Let me ask you this.
Have you ever tried to live a year where you just sought to appreciate what you already have?
Who you already are?
Who your partner already is?
If not, how do you know it’s a crazy idea to do so?
Maybe it’s time you gave changing nothing a chance.
See where it goes.
It’s not like you can’t go back to trying to change things next year right?
But I’ll tell you what I think will happen.
When you finally let go?
When you finally quit trying to create the perfect life for yourself and your partner?
The life you always wished you had?
You’ll experience so much peace and joy from finally letting life be, you’ll never want to go back to the old way of life again.
That’s my hope for you.
That you will finally learn to just let life be.
Let it flow.
And follow it wherever it goes.
What do you think? Are you ready to make 2017 the year you don’t change a thing?
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