“You have my heart!” is what she said to me.
She had just given me part of my birthday gift.
It was a cute little lapel pin with a heart on it.
She wanted to make sure I understood the symbolism.
But because she also was a monogamy girl, I understood what was likely inevitable. When she found someone who would give his heart to “only her,” she would then have to take her heart back from me.
As I told you in Part 1?
I just don’t understand how you can do it?
Once you love someone?
Don’t you just love them?
If somebody told you you’re not allowed to love someone you do, would you just say to your partner, “Oh okay then? I guess now I no longer love you!”
But true to form?
The day finally came.
Unbeknownst to me?
She had found her “one and only” lover.
No matter how many times they tell me it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, I still continue to find this one a shocker.
Why would you choose a lovestyle like this?
One that requires you to reject someone you’re loving?
One that says that you just can’t love who you love?
Instead, you have to select just ONE and abandon all the others?
But this is what monogamy requires you to do all the time, and why I say it requires you to say “No” to love constantly. Even if there is room in your heart for more than one person, you are not ALLOWED to exercise that option.
And please don’t tell me this has never happened to you.
You know you have experienced loving more than one person.
The fact you’ve been programmed to deny that you have?
That itself should throw the monogamy lovestyle into question.
A friend recently said to me, “Maybe focus on just getting one girl firm, before looking for many? I guess you get that advice a lot.”
But for me it has never been about “collecting” girls.
It is always about keeping my heart open to love.
And every time I experience a love leaving like this?
I am more determined NOT to submit to monogamy’s requirement.
What do you think? Should you forget about keeping your heart open to love and instead do what society tells you, or is love such a precious thing to you that you just have to keep your heart open to it?
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