We were sitting at a restaurant table.
It was just the two of us.
The friend who introduced us a few moments ago?
He had moved on and left us to ourselves.
And so began a pleasant time getting to know this very attractive Czech girl. A girl who to this day I would have a relationship with in a heartbeat, if she was interested.
We talked about a lot of things.
Why she came to Canada in the first place.
We shared so much about ourselves.
It was a very natural enjoyable connective time.
As the conversation ebbed and flowed, I could also see she was feeling attracted. She wasn’t the only one, because she was already feeling special to me too.
But then as my friends always say I should not?
I shared with her my relationship perspective.
I could see her countenance visibly drop.
Her disappointment was clear to me.
“Well,” she said. “I guess you are just a guy who wants his freedom. I’m looking for a guy who wants to be committed to me.” She was hoping for the whole marriage thing, which obviously I couldn’t offer.
As I reflected on her statement though?
I found myself amused by it’s implications.
If enjoying Romantic Friendships means freedom?
What does that say about monogamy?
I’m pretty sure everybody out there would agree that the opposite of freedom is slavery. So if you’re wanting a guy to “commit” to you, doesn’t that mean you want to lock him up permanently?
Do you think it is any coincidence?
In the old days marriage was known as “wedlock.”
The idea of locking up your partner?
That was something embraced unabashedly.
Of course, the reason this worked back then, is it was only girls who experienced the locking. Guys remained free to “sew their wild oats,” because the girls were literally their property.
Though the property thing has changed a bit?
According to this girl, it’s just been expanded.
Now it is you girls who want to lock up a guy.
Take away his freedom and chain him to you.
What do you think? Have the concepts of marriage and monogamy really changed much, or have you just dressed the slavery up in platitudes of “eternal love” now so we don’t catch on to it?
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