“I’m just not in the mood right now.”
“I don’t have the same need for it you do.”
“Don’t you think about anything else?”
Why doesn’t your partner understand that just because they want it all the time doesn’t mean that you do?
A relationship is made of more than just that isn’t it?
If they really loved you they would understand.
People have different needs and not everybody is just “on” all the time.
Besides you’ve had a really tiring day.
A really tiring week.
Actually if you’re honest with yourself, it’s been an exhausting year, come to think of it.
But that doesn’t seem to matter to them.
All they seem to think about is themselves.
“Honey maybe on the weekend if we can find some time.”
“Lot’s of people don’t even do it more than once a month.”
“I’ve talked to friends and they agree with me, you’re expecting too much.”
Your partner doesn’t hear you. Doesn’t seem to care.
Doesn’t appreciate that in order to be ready for it, the conditions have to be just right.
Why do they expect this of you when they know what a stressful time you’ve been having at work?
The boss has been riding you and the deadlines are coming.
You’re feeling up against the wall.
The last thing this makes you feel like is doing is that!
Let me let you in on a secret.
I know this will be hard to accept.
When you’re in a relationship, you have responsibilities, and your partner needs to know you care.
So even though you’re not in the mood, here’s what I want you guys to do.
Show your girl the emotional affection she’s asking for anyway.
Even when you don’t feel like doing it.
It will make your relationship work so much better.
Oh? Did you girls think I was talking about your guy’s desire for sex?
No no, not at all.
I was talking about your expectation that he show you affection every day.
That he connect with you emotionally on a regular basis.
Do you think he would be unreasonable to tell you he’s not in the mood to show you affection?
Do you think it would be harmful to your relationship, if he asked you to wait until next week or next month for a hug or a kiss?
Then maybe you want to think twice about how you’ve been looking at being sexually connective with HIM.
Because for your guy, sexual fulfillment is THE WAY he feels loved.
Just like you feel loved when he shows you affection.
If you don’t think you should have to go hours or weeks or months to be shown he really cares, why do you think it’s okay for you to expect him to wait until you’re in the mood to have sex with him?
To be okay having sex once a week or less?
How long would your love for him last if he treated your need for emotional connection, the way you treat his need for sexual fulfillment?
You don’t have to be in the mood.
You don’t need to be “on.”
You just need to know that this is important to him.
You just need to share yourself with him because you love him.
What do you think girls? Is your headache more important than your heartbreak?
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