I was introduced to a new concept today.
It is the concept of “mate poaching.”
It is closely related to another idea.
That idea is “mate copying.”
Mate copying happens when you encounter someone who has a relationship with another person. Though you don’t know that other person at all, you assume they must be a good partner since the first person loves them.
This is called “social proof.”
In pickup lingo?
When a pickup artist enters a club he will scan the environment, to see who he’s interested in. Then he will go and talk it up with other attractive girls, so the girl he’s interested in sees this.
The net effect?
His target becomes “into” him.
Just by seeing other girls like him?
Now SHE wants him.
Going back to the “mate copying” theme, what usually happens when you see someone with a mate and you want them? You go out and try to find youself someone SIMILAR to love you.
With “mate poaching” though?
You don’t just go for a copy.
When you see what they have?
You want the “original.”
You go for that actual person.
You decide you want THEM.
Of course this is often how affairs ensue, and how marriages break up eventually. But as I told you in Part 1, I don’t recommend you do this, despite the attraction.
Extenuating circumstances aside?
It’s a NO GO to steal someone else’s partner.
Not only are you failing to respect their bond?
You’re also just asking for trouble.
How about you? Have you ever been tempted to poach someone’s mate, and do you agree with me if you feel that attraction you should keep walking?
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