“The two of you are pretty unique.”
“Usually sex is what is good with couples.”
“The problem I usually see them face?”
“They aren’t good at being friends.”
These words were spoken to my long term partner and I, when we went to see this counsellor. Because of my sexual avoidance, our problem wasn’t common apparently.
I understand that.
Most guys are usually horn dogs.
Imagine being an attractive girl?
And your partner isn’t into you.
By this point in time our relationship had gone on for 5 years so far. In those early years she tried everything she could think of, hoping to get me interested in being intimate with her.
As this counsellor said?
We had no problem with our friendship.
We always did friends and companions well.
We just didn’t connect romantically.
I really wished we could have carried on, because I think this counselor could have helped us. Unfortunately his wife didn’t think he should be helping us for free.
So on we went.
Many years more.
But not connecting.
Though we dabbled a bit with a sex therapist once, and she put me onto the concept of porn addiction? It was many years more before things finally came to a head between my partner and me.
That fateful Christmas in 2010?
That’s when it came out she was thinking of leaving me.
That put the fear of God into me.
I finally figured myself out at that time.
Maybe you’re a girl right now, and your partner is not being sexually connective. Or maybe you’re a guy, and you know something has got to be wrong with you.
Don’t do what I did.
Don’t wait YEARS to solve this.
Reach out to me NOW!
I promise I can help!
How about you? Do you feel like things are hopeless for your relationship and you’re ready to end it, and if you do would you be willing to talk first and see if there’s a better answer for you?
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