As you know I do relationship consulting.
I call what I do consulting because it’s much different than what coaches do.
Usually a coach will just ask you questions.
Then let you find your own answers.
Really these folks are just navel gazing guides.
Don’t get me wrong.
I know people who’ve used coaches and benefited from the process.
But that’s not what I do.
As a consultant my job is to analyse your situation and make recommendations that I think will provide you with a solution.
When I ask questions I’m probing for patterns.
Yes you’re different than everybody else.
But in many ways you’re just the same.
This goes for every guy and every girl in every relationship scenario.
The details vary a bit.
But the patterns remain the same.
Because the patterns don’t change, if I can help you identify the pattern at play in your particular relationship, I can give you specific recommendations of what you should be doing different.
People I work with like this.
Because I’m results oriented?
I give you concrete action steps.
I’m not interested in meeting with you for the rest of your life.
You really CAN change and I’m here to help you do that.
But I’ve noticed a real big difference when I’m talking to guys as opposed to when I’m talking to girls. Guys are more receptive.
This is one of those patterns too!
When a guy comes to me for answers, he’s not wanting me to validate what he already thinks or feels.
He’s recognizing what he’s doing isn’t working.
So he wants to make a change.
If I say something he doesn’t like?
He sucks it up and puts what I’m saying into practice anyway.
Not so much with you girls.
Because you girls are more emotion oriented, you don’t like being told things that hurt. You want to be told that your fantasies really can come true.
So when I tell you what I’m seeing, I hear things like this from you:
“You’re not a girl so you can’t really understand what it’s like.”
“You’re forced to make assumptions.”
“You’re not understanding MY particular situation.”
It makes me wonder why you came to me in the first place.
If you only want somebody to validate what you already think or feel? You’ve got the mirror for that!
Or your girlfriends.
What do I do when I experience this kind of pushback?
I shift to letting you believe what you want.
I politely affirm you as best I can and send you on your way.
Because I know at that point I’m not going to get anywhere with you.
And I have no desire to create an enemy.
But you might recognize a pattern here too.
One that YOUR male partners often do.
Because I’m a guy, I know there is absolutely no point in trying to convince someone who doesn’t want to be convinced.
I’m here to HELP you.
I’m not here to be one of your girlfriends.
I want you to understand how to get real love WORKING in your life.
That’s what you SAY you want, right?
If you don’t want to change then go ahead and keep experiencing what you keep experiencing.
In the business world they call that insanity.
Doing the SAME thing you’ve always done and expecting a DIFFERENT result.
It’s no sweat off my back.
You’re just repeating one of those patterns so common among the female of the species. You know those patterns you think you’re so uniquely different than?
This is why guys are easier to help.
Because they actually WANT help.
They want to change.
They want things to be different.
But you can do that too!
You really can have a different result.
If you’ll let me show you how.
And you’ll do what I tell you to do.
Are you a girl who is really ready to change your love life? If so then hit me up and we’ll get started!
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