In a polyamory Facebook group I’m in?
Someone shared a meme with us.
It said, “Random Internet Person:”
“Polyamory is just an excuse not to have a real relationship.”
Of course the rest of the meme sought to correct this impression. But what I want to share with you now is some of the group member’s responses to this.
One of the more humorous statements was:
“I really don’t get why so many think we avoid serious relationships…
“…by maintaining multiple serious relationships.”
“Not exactly a great plan if that’s your goal.”
I thought to myself, “Exactly!”
Another person added a relevant idea: “I’ll also point out that there’s no requirement to have any serious relationships. And that the word ‘serious” is subjective anyway.”
“For some people it’s 35 years of what?”
“Keeping up a romantic relationship without any sex in it?”
“For others it could be 14 individual partners you rotate.”
“For others duplicating a traditional monogamous relationship.”
“Actually, I don’t have time for a serious relationship right now,” one of the girls chimed in. “Because both of my husbands and my boyfriend need my emotional support right now, but if you have time at 2 pm on Thursday I might be able to pencil this in….. “
I found the tongue in cheek there humorous.
One guy added, “The only thing you need is mutual understanding.”
“They never specified how many parties would be involved.”
Nothing “unserious” about that one!
“I am not in a committed relationship but I can’t even take in anyone new because I want to grow the potential of my current connections. I am serious as I could be about this.”
Of course the list could go on and on.
As you can see though?
For these people their polyamorous relationships?
They are every bit as serious about them.
But just like these other poly people you’ve heard from?
Romantic Friendships are ALSO serious relationships.
Relationships you could have for the rest of your life.
Which is why I just don’t do breakups!
What do you think? Is there anything about a monogamous relationship that is more serious than what you’ve seen here, or is it something you should give a second look in case you’re missing out on more than one serious relationship?
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