Now let me address the elephant in the room. I've defined "secure" as being autonomous. [link Part 6] But isn't that really being avoidant? Saying you don't have needs, and…
So if "secure base" in another person isn't it? And they are not your "safe haven?" Then what IS the point? What does it mean to have a "securely attached"…
As I mentioned to you in Part 4? [link] The implicit assumption often present? "Secure attachment's" equivalent? It is long term, committed monogamy. One refreshing exception to this trend is…
"Secure attachment" is central to Attachment Theory. But what does the theory mean by this statement? Finding a clear definition is harder than you think. But let me give you…
"Then why be in a relationship?" she asked. "Isn't it all about taking care of each other?" "If it's not about meeting each other's emotional needs?" "Then what's the point…
Is it really true? What your parents didn't do for you? Is that what you need now? And do you need it from your romantic partner? If you listen to…
The past few years? I've spent a lot of time. Doing what you ask? Hanging out in a couple Facebook groups. The two groups are called Personal Development School and…
So what is interdependence anyway? And how is it supposed to contrast with its "counter parts?" Love addicts are seen as codependent usually. I recently learned love avoidants are seen…
The only "positive" argument for monogamy I've heard? It's that you can't reach love's "pinnacle" without it. Unless you and your partner are both committed and "all in?" Any love…
When you don't like something about your partner? One of two things can happen. Either you can just ignore it? Or you can try to change them. Trying to change…